Something in you knows.
Counseling for people who are holding it together on the outside but feel something underneath isn't right — maybe it's a heaviness that won't lift, a pattern you keep repeating, or a sense that you're not quite living the life that's yours.
You've been meaning to talk to someone for a while.
Maybe you're not sure exactly what's wrong — just that something is. That low hum of inner exhaustion. A sense that you're harder on yourself than you need to be but you can't seem to stop. Feelings that are difficult to access or express, even when you want to. Patterns that keep showing up no matter how hard you try to change them.
You're not falling apart. You're functioning. But something underneath isn't right and you know it.
You're probably someone who thinks deeply, feels things more than you let on, and has been carrying something quietly for longer than you'd like to admit. You value honesty — in yourself and in the people you trust. You're not looking for someone to tell you what to do. You want someone who will actually get it. Who can sit with complexity without rushing to fix it. Who will be straight with you and stay with you through the hard parts.
If that sounds like you, I think we'd work well together.
Feeling stuck, anxious, or depressed - something is quietly off but you can't quite name it
Going through the motions but not feeling present in your own life
Repeating patterns in relationships you don't fully understand
Carrying something heavy from the past that still shows up today
Wanting to understand yourself better and actually feel things more fully
Navigating a hard season — and wanting more than just to get through it
Ready to do real work on yourself, maybe for the first time
Some other things that may have brought you here…
How can counseling help?
Counseling helps by giving you a space to slow down and understand what's actually going on underneath — not just manage it.
Most of us spend a lot of energy pushing through, explaining away the discomfort, or waiting for things to shift on their own. Counseling interrupts that. It's a place to be honest about what you're carrying, understand where it comes from, and — through the experience of being genuinely known by another person — start to feel more at home in yourself.
When that happens, things change in ways that actually hold. The anxiety that used to spike doesn't have the same grip. The pattern you kept repeating starts to make sense — and loses some of its power. Relationships feel less complicated. You feel less at war with yourself. There's more room to breathe, to feel, to be present in your own life.
Counseling can help with…
Anxiety
Constant worry and feeling ‘keyed up’ all the time can make even ordinary days feel exhausting. Together we'll look at what's underneath your distressing emotions and help you find your way back to feeling like yourself.
Trauma
Trauma shows up in ways we don’t always expect— burnout, perfectionism, feeling disconnected from yourself or others. In counseling, we’ll create a safe space to work through the pain of the past so you can start living more fully in the present.
Relationship Issues
Repeating painful dynamics — giving too much, struggling to be heard, or wondering why connection feels so hard doesn't have to be permanent. Counseling can help you understand where these patterns come from and start to change them.
I want to help you find more connection to yourself and your life. Together, we will explore your inner world to uncover what’s been hidden beneath the surface so you can take steps toward lasting change.
My approach is existential-humanistic at its core, meaning I'm fundamentally oriented toward helping people live more fully and with greater aliveness. I draw on contemporary psychodynamic and relational theory to understand how your history and relational patterns have shaped the way you're organized — and what might be getting in the way of the life you sense is possible. I use a range of techniques as needed, but the heart of my work is always the relationship and what becomes possible when someone feels genuinely understood.
Meet Blaise Selby, MA, LPCC
Common Questions About Counseling
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I practice a type of counseling based on depth, insight, and relationship, often called ‘psychodynamic’ or relational therapy.* This means that we go deeper into the problems that are bringing you here and view your life in a holistic, connected way. We are not fully transparent to ourselves, so we pay attention to conscious and unconscious parts of your experience. We do all of this work within a safe and trusted relationship that helps improve your relationships outside of counseling.
You’ll be able to address symptoms (anxiety, depression, etc.) while paying attention to the background thoughts and feelings that exist behind these symptoms. Together we’ll make sense of your experiences, which will result in greater self-esteem, connection, and fulfillment.
*You can read more about this type of therapy and the research that supports it here.
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We’ll meet and talk together about why you’re wanting to start counseling and how you’re hoping it will help. I’ll ask you questions about your life background and experiences and give you time to ask me questions about my approach to make sure we’ll be a good fit.
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While this depends on what type of support you’re needing, most clients see me weekly or bi-weekly so we can build a strong relationship and stay focused on helping you grow.
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In counseling you say whatever comes to mind! Seriously - you speak as freely as you’re able, even if it feels awkward or unrelated. Trust me. It will connect with why you’re here. When that feels hard, I encourage people to talk with me about what they’ve been feeling throughout the week - that brings us to important places together.
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This depends on why you’re starting therapy. Many people start to feel better within 2-6 months, but stay in counseling because they want to feel more. Deeper self-exploration takes time. I think you’re worth getting to know and grow if you are able to take the time.
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When counseling is effective, you may find yourself understanding yourself at a deeper level, feeling emotions more deeply, experiencing more connection with yourself and others, and having an increased sense of freedom or creativity in how you engage with your life.
There is no single outcome for counseling - everyone needs different things from the relationship. But overall, counseling should help you love, work, and play with greater depth and fulfillment amidst life’s inevitable pain and uncertainty.